A little boy of about 5 years old seeks to escape the horror of war. For this, you only need a ball and the shirt of your favorite player, the one that he admires and that encourages him to dream and get up every day.
The little one’s name is Murtaza and he lives in a rural area of Afghanistan. Since he does not have enough resources to buy a football shirt, one is made, with the help of his father and his older brother. With a plastic bag, paint some blue stripes. In the middle, on the back, the name of his idol: Leo Messi.
How idols influence children
Without knowing it, that soccer player whom the little one admires, makes him dream. It makes their aspirations go beyond the armed confrontation. It marks a way forward. And in your case, it also helps you use the imagination and to be creative. Do the idols in children really influence so much?
A singer, an athlete or a Hollywood star. The idols of the little ones have something in their favor: the media have made them famous. They have become stars and have managed to cross borders. Each of them represents a reference to follow for millions of children.
What famous person does your son admire? Would I like to be a Formula 1 driver like Lewis Hamilton? Football player like Cristiano Ronaldo? Singer like Violetta or Justin Bieber? Each one of them transmits a series of values. We may not give importance to it, and it does. The idols bring all these things to children:
– It teaches them a pattern to follow.
– It transmits a series of values.
– It stimulates your imagination. It helps them to be creative.
– Represents a conquered dream.
Children tend to imitate their idols. Hence the relevance that these people have. In addition, many children can create a false image of their idol. And that is precisely where parents come to act. An obsession with their idol can generate false expectations in children and a lot of frustration . But well taken, without obsessions, knowing that their idols are also people with their limitations and mistakes, can motivate them to fight for their dream.
At what age do children begin to have idols
Young children only have an idol that they admire daily: their parents. For them, their parents are like superheroes and there is no one who succeeds in defeating them. But From 8 years, children start looking for other ‘superheroes’ far from home. It can even be a cartoon.
And if not, remember. Did not you have any idols as a child? That singer that you admired and that made you dress in a certain way? That footballer you wanted to become a scorer for? That actor with whose photos you lined your folders?
According the psychologist Alfonso Correa Having an idol since childhood is the most normal thing in the world, since it justifies that effort by look for our identity . For this, we look for references.
It is best not to prevent the child from having his own idols. According to experts, Parents should not be coerced about who they should not follow. We can say, of course, and tell our son if one of his idols we do not like, even put limits but never force him to stop following him. You already know that these kinds of prohibitions only get the opposite effect.
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