Bullying – The Mirror of Toxic Interactions

Usually, those who employ bullying are as well assaulted at home by their parents. It is very likely that their parents have been assaulted by their own parents or are being assaulted at the workplace.
A specific form of aggression is bullying. This type of behavior consists in using a superior force to influence or intimidate someone. It is a repeated and intentional behavior by which the aggressor persecutes, hurts, intimidates verbally, or physically.
Bullying does not necessarily mean the existence of a conflict based on a real problem, but on the aggressor’s desire to gain power or authority, to present itself in a certain way.
We can talk about verbal bullying, physical, sexual or psychological bullying. Manipulation, gossip, constraints, criticism, lies, rumors, satirization, exaggerated comic to a person or a group of people (in the classroom, in the office, in the hallways, in the schoolyard etc.), the differences they present (height, weight, eye color, hair color, cognitive level, learning potential, race, ethnicity, religion, disability, family type, culture level etc.) constitute bullying behavior.
The bullying behavior is especially felt when there are economic, racial, cultural, age differences.
There is the direct, aggressive harasser, but also the one who is extremely subtle in the first phase, who has patience and develops real scenarios to achieve what he wants.
Victims of bullying are often timid, with low self-esteem, poor social skills, generally less physically strong than their peers; aggressors choose these criteria just to get them safe because they usually do not take revenge.
The effects of bullying can be serious, even fatal. It is indicated that people, whether children or adults, who are permanently subjected to abusive behavior, pose a risk of stress, illness, and even suicide. The victims of harassment may suffer long-term emotional problems, behavioral problems, social problems, loneliness, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, an increase in the frequency of illness.
In the process of growth, almost every child experiences “teasing” by the elders and adults. Perhaps for them, it is a simple play, but, for the child, it is a model of communication from the strong to the weak. The child still does not have the ability to discern between good and bad, still cannot foresee the consequences of his or her deeds on a long-term basis, so he internalizes the behavior, the model from his or her closest ones and provides his survival or other sources when his parents accept it by non-involvement. The child also learns to hurt and, by doing so repeatedly, the behavior becomes bullying.
This ample phenomenon often leaves physical, verbal, rational, and even social consequences. Physically they can associate from snarls and strokes to biting, scratches and bruises. Verbally, we can associate them with screams, using nicknames, threats, and insults that bring a victim to anxiety and discomfort. At a relational level, victims become isolated, or intimidated and even manipulated what will also affect them socially, because they will marginalize themselves and will even be excluded from situations where they are not exposed.

How can we diminish and prevent these attacks? What steps can be taken?

Psychologically speaking, the harassed one must first turn to their self-image – “shake off” a little and realize that he/she is a person and has certain rights.
One has the right to say no, the right to change his mind even if in the first phase he said yes – even if he initially accepted, he can always say no.
Effects on the victims of bullying can be felt even over years and years if the issue is not treated properly. Most benefits of eliminating bullying should bring a change of mentality from an early age. This is done through a longer-term plan. It is necessary for the school to remain a safe and friendly environment where children acquire essential knowledge and skills and develop relationships that are defining their future.

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